Desire / Availability / Obtainability

I feel there is often a lot of confusion between these things, and yes I'm referring to the world of dating.

If someone likes you, they are available to you, this often makes you think you desire them when you don't.

If someone is unobtainable, you desire them, they instant you get them (obtainable), you don't want them (¬desire).

Funny then isn't it when both of those can effect desire, yet no amount of desire can make the one you like available or obtainable.

The Goals I Set Myself In This Blog in a Nutshell

Worth a Watch

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b00ysfvh/How_TV_Ruined_Your_Life_Love/

So true, I'm glad I'm not the only one :')

Why worry? I wonder all the time why worry?

Worry. It's a strange sensation, and I know I'm not the only one.

I worry about a lot of things... mostly those I don't have control over. Which is stupid really, because I can do simply nothing about them, and should be resolved in this fact.

Confession: I had a few months of therapy, when I was around 16, about my excessive worrying. I was diagnosed with "Generalized Anxiety Disorder". The treatment helped me to reduce the symptoms, but by no means cured me.

I've started to notice I'm not the only one who worries though. Following last night's post I had two concerned friends check if I was okay, I appreciate this guys, thanks. I guess I do only tend to do these posts when something is up, but for me I tend to pour my thoughts and my worries into the blog, post it, and some way forget about them. Or atleast that's the idea anyway.

I guess my main trouble is I ponder the worst case scenario, before eventually coming up with, less convincing, more realistic thoughts.

On a relatively unrelated topic, but it's too small to post on it's own and I want to say it. I'm fedup with something my mind's been doing lately. At times when I'm not around others and am not specifically happy (not necessarily sad) my brain starts reliving arguments with the ex, or things I could have done better, ways she annoyed me... anything negative about the concept of relationships... it really drags me down, would kinda like it to gtfo.

Anon out.

False Optimism and Why Nice Guys Finish Last

It's hard to be optimistic when there's so much bad in the world. At times I really have next to no faith in humanity. When I hear stories of how some 'people' (and I use the term oh so loosely) can act, can treat genuinely nice people. It just makes me sick.

The worst part is I often get a read on people like that, yet I dismiss it as pessimism, or a read based on jealousy... and it's not something you can tell those at risk of being hurt. You have to wait... watch... and pick up the pieces as the inevitable happens.

I get no satisfaction from being right, and it pains me to see those I genuinely care about feel such pain... but what can you do? << An open question, please respond.

If it's not obvious by now, this relates to a girl (yes again)... I don't want to give too much detail as it would seem to me a breach of trust... and right now I'm about the only one she does trust.

This makes me rethink past rants in a way... I've always said why not the nice guy... but I've in a way finally had it explained to me. The nice guy does the right thing, and will give a girl time. The bad guy pretends to be the nice guy, and some times very convincingly, but he moves quicker, doesn't let the girl have time to think, takes advantage of innocence, naivety, and the fact that others have hurt her in the past. It's crude. It's sick. But I can see how it could fool far too easily.

Thats all for now... regrettably I can imagine there'll be more on this soon.

The Friend Zone...

There's no real way i can explain it, but it's like... if you've ended up in "the friend zone", then something about it somewhere down the line wasn't meant to be, it never would have worked. So if you've ended up there then at least you never made it so far that u got really hurt later on...

It's a positive spin yes... but give it some thought.